Websites:
Glow in The Woods– a community blog with great forums
MISS Foundation– check out their forums
Still Standing Magazine– online magazine with articles addressing, babyloss, infertility, grief and many other related topics
Faces of Loss– read other’s stories. submit your own.
Grief Healing– links to articles on grief
Confessions of A Funeral Director– articles related to death, some serious, some beautiful, some lighthearted.
Blogs:
Baby Boy Blue– a mom’s journey after losing her son Anderson, who was born at 24 weeks due to a chronic abruption.
Pleromama– a mom who is also a nurse, who lost her son Owen, a few hours after birth. She carried him knowing that he had a rare form of skeletal dysplasia, short rib polydactyly syndrome, which carried a poor prognosis.
Lost: Boys and Bearings– a mom who has been through the unthinkable- twice. She lost her first son BW to stillbirth and her third son, Zachary, at two weeks old to an infection.
Here Comes the Rush– a mom who lost her son Anders at six months due to an shortened cervix.
The Tangerine Owl Project– a mom who lost her preemie daughter, Delilah after 27 days in the NICU. She now blogs and helps sponsor events promoting awareness of pregnancy and infant loss.
Headspace Perspective– a mom who was diagnosed with a severe form of HELLP syndrome and had her baby Hugo early , at 24 weeks. He lived for 35 days and now his mom honors him by blogging about babyloss and raising awareness about HELLP
This Little LIght of MIne– musings and poetry of a mom whose baby Zia was born sleeping at 8 months
Losing Chiara– the thoughts of a mom whose second baby, Chiara, was born still at 22 weeks.
Oh, Baby, Baby– the journey of a mom who has struggled with infertility, miscarriage and the loss of triplets (one at 9 weeks, Brinely at 18 weeks and Jude at 21 weeks)
True Worth– a mom who carried her youngest son, Gideon, knowing he would not be long for this world. A kidney defect and lack of fluid took her son a few hours after birth.
In All Things Rejoice– another mom who carried her son, Seraphim, who had a fatal kidney condition. His mom was gifted a few hours with him after birth before he died.
And check out this post by Adventures of A Labor Nurse that speaks to those of us who have lost a baby.
Books:
An Exact Replica of A Figment of My Imagination by Elizabeth McCracken- a memoir of a woman’s stillbirth and subsequent pregnancy
Waiting for Gabriel: A Story of Cherishing a Baby’s Brief Life by Amy Kuebelbeck- a memoir of a woman whose baby was diagnosed in pregnancy with a likely fatal heart defect
A Gift of Time: Continuing a Pregnancy When Your Baby’s Life is Expected to be Brief by Amy Kuebelbeck- a guide for anyone carrying a baby with a fatal (or likely fatal) diagnosis. Stories of real parents and suggestions on how to prepare.
Three Minus One: Stories of Parents’ Love and Loss by Kelly Kittel, Jessica Watson, Brooke Warner and Sean Hamish- a collection of stories written by parents who have lost a baby at any point- miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal loss.
Meghan,
Today I asked a woman that I don’t know too well how her baby was (she was 8 or 9 months pregnant when I last saw her a few months back). Her face was instantly changed and she responded that, “things didn’t go well.” I immediately thought of you and tried to think of what you have said were responses that made you feel loved or anything that could possibly convey how sorry I was that her baby died and that I had asked her about it in front of other people that she didn’t know. I just said, “I’m sorry. I’m so so sorry.” She told me not to worry, that I didn’t know. And then we all moved on to ordering lunch. Could I have said anything better? Should I email her?
I’ve been following your story since you were hanging out in the hospital with your yoga gear, and cheering you on as you process Mabel’s death and honor her memory. I cried from my kitchen table in San Diego when I read her birth announcement. Thank you for sharing your story and allowing me an opportunity to gain understanding and grow in empathy. You and Mabel have taught me so much.
Thanks,
Kaitlin
thank you for reading and writing Kaitlin! It sounds like you did an absolute lovely job handling such unexpected and sad news. There is so much behind those simple words “I’m sorry” and I”m sure she appreciated it. Could you have said anything better? no, you did great! Should you email her? What a nice idea! (at least I think so). I received many cards and notes from people who I didnt know well (patients, friends of parents and relatives I had never met, old high school classmates I had lost touch with, etc)- and each one made me smile. TO me, it meant that my baby was important- important enough for someone to not only think about her beyond hearing the news, but to also make an effort, writing or saying something when they didnt have to. so if you feel up to an email, I say go for it.
You words on following our journey made me tear up- thinking back to those yoga times and the birth/death announcement that followed shortly after, knowing that someone was following and still is! and here you are, thinking of us when you had a difficult interaction. and the best par tis, how you did so well and how much you’re thinking about it after. gives me strength and purpose. so thank you.
Hi Meghan, thanks so much for posting my blog here on your resource page. I noticed that the link is incorrect. Here’s the right one:
http://www.clearbrightstar.blogspot.com
All best wishes to you. I continue to enjoy reading your blog and I wish you well on your current journey.