Sunday Synopsis

The Stone– A beautiful description of how grief evolves over time.  It’s there, never leaves, sometimes is heavier and more noticeable, sometimes just simply carrying on beside you.

Thomas Gray lived six days, but his life had lasting impact– wow wow wow.  I wish I had thought of donating organs to research for Mabel.  I had thought a little about donating her organs, but I wondered whether they would be useful due to her Down Syndrome.  Some organs were clearly not donatable- her kidneys were damaged, her lungs so small, her heart formed imperfectly.  But her corneas were likely fine.  Other organs maybe.  I might not have wanted to go through rejection of her organs for donation, but I never thought of donating for research.  Many props to Thomas Gray’s mom who not only thought about and did this for her son, but also is telling the world about it- spreading his legacy and giving options to those pregnant with babies with life limiting conditions.

Meet the very cute baby who was born without a nose– Love the positive image this post promotes about a child with a birth defect, one that makes him look different.

Baby Girl Memorial Scrapbook– Love this babyloss focused scrap book.  A way to give us a chance to make something for our babies without the pain of sorting through all the living children memorabilia

When grief becomes a disorder– I mull over this in my mind a lot- where do you draw the line at complicated grief? When someone is grieving too long or too much? We are constantly affirmed that no one can tell us how to grieve, but I feel like, here they are.  At the same time, I also believe some people could benefit from medication.  Not everyone, of course.  And I don’t think that we should medicate all grief- make people happy and forget about their loss.  But thats not what most medications do.  As someone who has benefitted from medication (but also has had a pre-existing anxiety disorder), I think meds helped me in some ways and also delayed some of my grieving process in others.  Is grief a disorder? yes and no.  It requires attention and care like other disorders, but there is no fixing it either.

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2 thoughts on “Sunday Synopsis

  1. It’s great to read about organ donation and the initiatives to make it a better-known options, especially for people who might have more time to prepare to that option (if only they knew it is an option!).

    i really wanted to give Paul’s organs if it had been possible. We filled some paperwork but it turned out we couldn’t go through with that plan because the medical team strongly recommended an autopsy. But i feel like it would have been a good thing to be able to rely on — knowing that despite the fact that his body had failed him, parts of it could help others, or science. I ended up donating my breast milk and it felt “good” or at least not nearly as awful as throwing it out. Like with donating organs, i feel like it is an outside confirmation that what you are / have made is precious…

  2. I too wish we could have donated Ander’s organs. Unfortunately, the oxygen deprivation that ultimately took his life also made his organs unsuitable. But I loved that story – what a legacy!

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