She was a young woman. Some people do well at the gyn and for other’s it’s a struggle everytime to make it through the door. I had one patient tell me she’d rather come to me for a pap smear than go to the dentist (so true! Me too! Pelvics take 2 minutes, the dentists takes an hour!). Another patient tells me each time that she cant understand how I can do what I do. It all grosses her out.
This nervous young woman said in the middle of her visit- the visit that was focused on her and her issue and her nervousness around the exam- “I just want you to know I’m so sorry about your baby.”
In all her nerves and angst, she could take a minute a look outside herself and say something kind. That’s amazing.
I smiled. Thanked her. Thanked her for saying something.
It’s young women like these that make me want to hunt down their mothers and just say “Good job. You raised her well.”